Approach
What do you want from your relationship?
Couples bring one or more predictable questions to therapy:
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Why aren't we communicating like we used to?
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How do we stop fighting so much?
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How do we get attraction, synergy and romance back?
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How do we resolve apparently recurring problems and disagreements?
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How do we create a (new) vision for the future?
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How can we heal from a betrayal
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To respond to these and other questions, I draw on and integrate a range of knowledge at the intersection of psychology, biology & communication:
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What structures--principles, agreements, understanding--need to be in place to anchor relationships
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How couples and families develop over time, and what can get in the way of healthy development.
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How brain, mind, and body both enable and constrain change
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How early experiences lay the groundwork for and create obstacles to healthy relationships
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How communication, memory & perception can work for you (on good days) and against you (on other days)
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What tools and techniques couples use, and what resources they need, to create sustainable, functioning relationships.
and for some couples:
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How do cultural and cross- cultural backgrounds create complications?
The goal for this work is sustainable secure functioning – creating fair, sensitive, just & collaborative arrangements that work for everyone.
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