Couples bring one or more predictable questions to therapy:

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• Why aren't we communicating like we used to?

• How do we stop fighting so much? Or at least fight better?

• How do we get attraction, synergy and romance back?

• How do we resolve apparently perpetual problems and disagreements?

• How do we create a sustainable vision for the future?

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To respond to these and other questions, I draw on and integrate a range of knowledge at the intersection of psychology, biology & communication:

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• How we learn, grow, change throughout adulthood.

• What structures--principles, agreements, understanding--need to be in place to anchor relationships

• How couples and families develop over time, and what can get in the way of healthy development.

• How brain, mind, and body both enable and constrain change

• How early experiences lay the groundwork for and create obstacles to healthy relationships

• How communication, memory & perception can work for you (on good days) and against you (on other days)

• What tools and techniques couples use, and what resources they need, to create sustainable, functioning relationships.

and for some couples:

• How do cultural and cross- cultural backgrounds create complications?

 

The goal for this work is sustainable secure functioning – creating fair, sensitive, just & collaborative arrangements that work for everyone.

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